Senin, 24 Agustus 2015

What Codependent Love Addicts Have To Cope With

By Shawn Hunter


You will run into a lot of problems should you have certain addiction problems relating to love. Codependent love addicts have a hard time on a daily basis because there are many classic characteristics that will set them back. Some people go through their whole life coping in this way. However, it will definitely improve the quality of life by seeking professional help.

Someone who has this disorder will be obsessed about relationships and is continuously thinking and fantasizing about a partner or something related. It is almost an obsessive compulsive way of thinking, which one has a lot of trouble with. This affects your personal and professional life.

Most of this comes back to situations in their childhood which was not healthy. There was often neglect and abandonment involved. This causes one to be fearful of being rejected in certain relationships. They are fearful of being intimate because of the fact that they might at anytime be neglected by their partner. It makes the relationship unhealthy.

It is common to see someone who wants to control another person. Of course, it could work the other way around where someone could have control over them. This would make them comfortable with a sense of responsibility. Although, resentment will always come into the picture. A lot of the time, they will blame others because of the fact that there were no boundaries in the first place.

Someone like this will battle with self care or anything related to them because they will see their partner as the person that is the higher power. This is why it doesn't work out because one cannot equal that description. A relationship is meant to be equal in nature and this is why this become unhealthy. Someone like this also will enjoy being looked after because this compensates for their childhood loss.

A love addict becomes lonely when they are not with someone and this is when they go into withdrawal mode. When they find someone to be with, they will find that this is like a drug which makes them high. It may not last because it is unhealthy. They will go through life from one relationship to the next in this mode, and it will probably effect the way in which they live and work.

A love addict will go though a stage or withdrawal should they not be in a relationship. However, this is not healthy since they battle to connect or bond with anyone. They were not able to do this as a child either and this has not since changed in anyway. They were neglected during this time and this is where the fear creeps in. It adds to the low self-esteem that they carry around with them.

A love addict does not see their immature behavior and how offensive it can be to others. It is only when someone points this out and becomes supportive that one may start to see the light. Therapy can change how one sees relationships and this can change your whole life around.




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